No, there is nobody else. I knew this before and it's not something I've doubted.
But last night he admitted that he didn't want to hurt me or the kids--didn't want to do this but it's something he needs. He knew pretty much when he brought the idea up that it was going to end in divorce. I'll probably be mad at him later but for now I'm not. Ed's messed up inside and he truly wasn't sure what was going to hurt more.
So. For now, nothing much is going to change. There's a lot for us to sort through and to do to make this easier on the kids. We're not going to rush this. This is not an acrimonious divorce. There is still a great deal of care. So, going forward with the knowledge of what is and what isn't and making plans with input from the kids. We'll get through it. Ironically, we'll get through divorce together.
Telling the kids was the worst thing I've ever done.