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So that's happening.

Last night Ed and I talked. In part because y'all are awesome. But mostly because I couldn't stop pushing.

No, there is nobody else. I knew this before and it's not something I've doubted.

But last night he admitted that he didn't want to hurt me or the kids--didn't want to do this but it's something he needs. He knew pretty much when he brought the idea up that it was going to end in divorce. I'll probably be mad at him later but for now I'm not. Ed's messed up inside and he truly wasn't sure what was going to hurt more.

So. For now, nothing much is going to change. There's a lot for us to sort through and to do to make this easier on the kids. We're not going to rush this. This is not an acrimonious divorce. There is still a great deal of care. So, going forward with the knowledge of what is and what isn't and making plans with input from the kids. We'll get through it. Ironically, we'll get through divorce together.

Telling the kids was the worst thing I've ever done.

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nicefinalbeam
Dec. 1st, 2012 04:47 am (UTC)
<3
I believe in you, and I know you will get through. ♥
tangiblewhimsy
Dec. 1st, 2012 05:01 am (UTC)
You've been so outstanding in how you've been handling an impossible situation. Really, I've seen messy divorces where people just fall apart. I've seen "civil" divorces where people have gone to pieces. You are incredible and strong and I love you. I love you, I love you, I love you. ♥

My heart goes out to your kids. With you as their mom, though, I'm not worried for them, even though this is going to be hard on everyone. Take care of yourself.
opaquebubble
Dec. 1st, 2012 08:23 am (UTC)
♥ x all the hearts in the world.

It may not seem like it to you, but from this perspective, you are incredibly strong for living through such a hard left turn, and still having the care and forethought to try and make things go as calmly and smoothly as they can.

Mostly am just wishing you lots of love, and sending you comfort-y thoughts.
gimmick_game
Dec. 1st, 2012 11:32 am (UTC)
*hugs you impossibly tight*

You are so much stronger than I ever could be, but being a mom now - I know why. I don't know if I could be civil in something like this. And while I commend you for being so strong through this - stand up for yourself when it comes down to things!!! My mom didn't enough from the pain of it all and definitely got the short-end of the stick even though the divorce wasn't 50-50.

You've raised some amazing kids, Sharon, and I know you can do this. If you need to talk any time, I'm here. :)
vintage_belle
Dec. 1st, 2012 04:32 pm (UTC)
You are one of the most caring, wonderful people I've had the honor to know. I haven't been around the lj much so I only just found out - but your strength astounds me. I know there's nothing I could say to make things better but I wanted to pass on love and hearts and hugs.
littlealex
Dec. 1st, 2012 05:08 pm (UTC)
I can't do much but echo what's already been said ♥~~~~~~ Take care, and stay strong - you have been already.
mad_madrasi
Dec. 2nd, 2012 05:49 am (UTC)
I'm not around much on LJ anymore, but I just wanted to send you all my love and support. I'm so shocked to hear about this, and it could not have happened to a less deserving person. Big big hugs. You are so loved, and you are amazing.
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